One of those memories ingrained into my brain is my 11-year-old daughter telling me one of her friends was her cross to bear.


At first it struck me as funny.


I couldn’t imagine a child carrying that much pressure from one person.


But then I remembered, I used to have a hot-headed perspective.


People could drive me nuts.


Today, though, no matter how nuts I get, I treat treat them kind.


It’s not an easy thing to do. Mostly it’s reserved for saints and I’m a long way from one.


In fact, my temper was lightning quick. It would take stupid stuff like getting cut off in traffic or getting into a fight over something dumb.


One time, I borrowed a car to drive to a high school baseball playoff. I had to get permission from the editor to take it for a nearly two hour trip to Phoenix. The station wagon catching a flat fat tire in 100-degree heat on the way home didn’t make me mad.


A friend in the newsroom, though, snatched the vehicle after I got back home without my permission. That’s not all. He used it to drink a dozen beers and he left the empties. The editor believed that it was my fault. It was a huge, huge mess.


I could have stayed angry at him but I didn’t. Eventually, I forgave him.


Letting things like that go can really make your life become so much less stressful.


People who knew me back then, thought I had a temper. Today, it would be hard for them to believe I let things roll off my back.


But it’s the right thing to do. Why should you remain so mad at certain people who did you wrong?


A family feud makes things worse, not better.


I enjoy living happy-go-lucky. It keeps me sane. It gives me a funny outlook at things that make most people stay angry at for years.


Before, I had a difficult time seeing the comedy of a bad situation. Now, I overcome all the awful things in my life…eventually.


I would never describe my daughter as a drama queen or other words. She always remains nice, even to those who cross she bears.


I’m glad I’ve become like her.


Duwayne Escobedo covers Santa Rosa County for the Daily News. You can contact him at 850-315-4489 in Fort Walton Beach, on his cell phone at 850-255-1484 or email him at descobedo@nwfdailynews.com